Making important decisions can be easier when you listen to your gut and follow your intuition. If your gut feels peaceful about going forward, then say yes. If it feels tense or uncomfortable, then say no.
But…think about the last time you were afraid. Did you feel the same kind of “no” discomfort in your body? If you feel discomfort in your gut about a decision, maybe it’s just saying you’re afraid. On the other hand, if your gut feels quiet, maybe it’s aligned with the safe choice, not the challenging one.
Following intuition means breaking out of the comfort zone to pursue a higher path, and feeling fear as we challenge those boundaries is part of the process. So, when you consider a decision and feel some kind of discomfort, is it a sign of fear holding you back? Or is the higher self really saying no?
It’s a valuable question.
Most of the bold decisions we make to become better and move beyond comfort will risk some kind of pain. If you try a new approach to something you could be rejected, you might fail, or you might be humiliated. These consequences might not seem like a big deal to someone with solid confidence, but to someone else, who still has remnants of outdated emotional pain stuck in the system somewhere, these risks will trigger unseen limits.
Brian was raised in a supportive environment with healthy parents and a safe neighborhood. He did fairly well in school, but when he brought home lower grades, his father was clearly disappointed and lectured him on how to avoid failure. He was also OK at sports, but instead of being cheered when he did well, the coach ridiculed him whenever he fell short. This is normal stuff, but it would hurt any kid.
Some people find enough success as adults to counteract memories like this. But everyone is different, and it is entirely possible that these encounters taught Brian not to attract any attention from authorities. Rather than feel the fear, he follows the rules where he knows he’s safe and almost forgets it’s there…until he gets pulled over for speeding and he feels that familiar knot in his stomach.
Now he’s 40 years old and faced with an opportunity to elevate himself in business. He has developed expert skill in his field, but the opportunity requires him to work with a partner who vaguely reminds him of the coach who ridiculed him in school. Without consciously recognizing the resemblance, he checks his gut, feels that knot, and decides against the opportunity.
It’s fair to assume that the knot in his stomach is representing an outdated fear from the past, not a genuine threat from the new partner, and would therefore stand in the way of reliable intuition.
So, if there was outdated fear affecting your intuition, how would you know?
One solution is to find other ways to confirm your intuitive sense so your body is not the only resource. Look at it from a few different angles, and always consider the possibility of a fear from the past either scaring you away or keeping you safe. Does that feeling in your body remind you of anything? When have you felt it before?
You could also try self-applied healing tools that bring more peace and clarity in the moment, but anything targeting the surface of the issue may not reach deeply enough to resolve it completely.
The most powerful plan is to adopt a pervasive healing approach that takes an inventory of your difficult past experiences, and resolves the ones that are causing problems in the background. When these are resolved completely, your intuition will be far more reliable.
I practice a high quality, professional strength version of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) that is extremely effective at finding the outdated fear in your system and healing it at the source. Take advantage of free consultations and client specials to learn more.